I blinked! I swear that’s all I did and 10 months passed since my last post. Where’d the time go? Is it even worth a worth a mention?
I’ve had to put my beloved blog aside for a while to cement my fledging business. During that time, I experienced meteoric highs and lots of ugly tears. I lost out on some valuable business prospects, I lost my cool in a client meeting and if the latter were to be analysed, I probably lost some respect as well. On the flip side, I grew a mighty pair of brass balls which, I’m happy to announce, I haven’t lost since. In fact, they’ve grown.
If I were to define myself by all which has transpired over this time, its that I learned my value as a woman and a small business owner. I learned that you can’t put food on the table or shoes on your feet if you’re giving the milk away.
So, when and how did the realisation of value dawn?
Could it have been my appointment as a design curator on Curated.Africa? Or when the Cape Town College of Fashion and Design invited me to sit on the curation panel of their Class of 2018 Graduation Show?
I know that RuffTung’s invitation for me to take over their Instagram account during AFI Fashion Week in Joburg was a highlight. We also cannot dismiss the value of my first yoga headstand performed on a milestone birthday. Or my 1500-word article on fashion slavery and the importance of buying local, which was published in print and online.
All this busy-ness happened last year. In contrast, 2019 saw a more introspective me engaging in the less glam yet cathartic activities of decluttering my life. I distanced myself from toxic relationships, did some serious DIY projects at home, and learned to become selfishly discerning with the company I keep and the events I frequent. Gone are the day of attending the opening of an envelope simply to secure a good pic on Instagram.
My hair, on the other hand, took a journey of its own. From dry, brittle and damaged to the most diabolical wig on the planet, to healthy follicles enhanced by extensions. This rocky road needs a seperate blog post so we’ll bench it for now.
The point I’m trying to make is that our value increases when we acknowledge and honour every personal victory and success. Katy Perry, Scarlett Johansson and Serena Williams were the top female earners in their respective fields in 2018. They didn’t reach the top of their game by giving their milk away. Hell no. They raised fists in victory after every amazing performance, then upped their rates accordingly.
And that’s what I believe we should do – especially small business owners. We should start valuing ourselves by celebrating our victories, and not be afraid to charge what we’re worth.
Above all, I think we should adjust each others’ crowns as we go along. As one of my best friends said, “we’re all walking each other home”.
Happy Women’s Month, stylish ones. You are loved and valued.
PS: When Peter Weetman and Johan van Heerden of Curated.Africa invited me to shoot my collection, I had No Idea they intended for me to style it as well. I guess we could add Stylist to my portfolio as well. (See if you can spot me eating the props. Lolz!)
Pop a comment below and share your victories, no matter how small it may seem. If it’s important to you, it’s important to me.